Dealing With Bullying

Bullying Is a Big Problem

Every day thousands of teens wake up afraid to go to school. Bullying is a problem that affects millions of students, and it has everyone worried, not just the kids on its receiving end. Yet because parents, teachers, and other adults don't always see it, they may not understand how extreme bullying can get.

Bullying is when a person is picked on over and over again by an individual or group with more power, either in terms of physical strength or social standing.

Two of the main reasons people are bullied are because of appearance and social status. Bullies pick on the people they think don't fit in, maybe because of how they look, how they act.

Some bullies attack their targets physically, which can mean anything from shoving or tripping to punching or hitting, or even sexual assault.

How Does Bullying Make People Feel?

One of the most painful aspects of bullying is that it is relentless. Most people can take one episode of teasing or name calling or being shunned at the mall. However, when it goes on and on, bullying can put a person in a state of constant fear.

Guys and girls who are bullied may find their schoolwork and health suffering. Amber began having stomach pains and diarrhea and was diagnosed with a digestive condition called irritable bowel syndrome as a result of the stress that came from being bullied throughout ninth grade.

Studies show that people who are abused by their peers are at risk for mental health problems, such as low self-esteem, stress, depression, or anxiety. They may also think about suicide more.

Bullies are at risk for problems, too. Bullying is violence, and it often leads to more violent behavior as the bully grows up. Some teen bullies end up being rejected by their peers and lose friendships as they grow older. Bullies may also fail in school and not have the career or relationship success that other people enjoy.

What Can You Do?

For younger kids, the best way to solve a bullying problem is to tell a trusted adult. For teens, though, the tell-an-adult approach depends on the bullying situation.

One situation in which it is vital to report bullying is if it threatens to lead to physical danger and harm.

Sometimes the victim of repeated bullying cannot control the need for revenge and the situation becomes dangerous for everyone.

Adults in positions of authority — parents, teachers, or coaches — can often find ways to resolve dangerous bullying problems without the bully ever learning how they found out about it.

If you're in a bullying situation that you think may escalate into physical violence, try to avoid being alone and if you have a friend in this situation, spend as much time as you can together. Try to remain part of a group by walking home at the same time as other people or by sticking close to friends or classmates during the times that the bullying takes place.

Bullying Survival Tips

Here are some things you can do to combat psychological and verbal bullying. They're also good tips to share with a friend as a way to show your support:

• Ignore the bully and walk away. Do not lose your temper. Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and if you walk away, or ignore hurtful emails or instant messages, you're telling the bully that you just don't care. Sooner or later the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother you. Walk tall and hold your head high. Using this type of body language sends a message that you're not vulnerable.
• Hold the anger. Bullies want to know they have control over your emotions. If you're in a situation where you have to deal with a bully and you can't walk away with poise, use humor — it can throw the bully off guard. Work out your anger in another way, such as through exercise or writing it down.
• Practice confidence. Practice ways to respond to the bully verbally or through your behavior. Practice feeling good about yourself.
• Take charge of your life. You can't control other people's actions, but you can stay true to yourself. Think about ways to feel your best — and your strongest — so that other kids may give up the teasing. Exercise is one way to feel strong and powerful. Learn a martial art or take a class like yoga. Another way to gain confidence is to hone your skills in something like chess, art, music, computers, or writing. Joining a class, club, or gym is a great way to make new friends and feel great about yourself. The confidence you gain will help you ignore the mean kids.
• Talk about it. It may help to talk to a guidance counselor, teacher, or friend — anyone who can give you the support you need. Talking can be a good outlet for the fears and frustrations that can build when you're being bullied.
• Find your friends. If you've been bullied with rumors or gossip, all of the above tips (especially ignoring and not reacting) can apply. But take it one step further to help ease feelings of hurt and isolation. Find one or two true friends and confide how the gossip has hurt your feelings. Set the record straight by telling your friends quietly and confidently what's true and not true about you.
  

The Basic Skills of Counseling Techniques

An open question is one that is used in order to gathering lots of information – you ask it with the intent of getting a long answer. A closed question is one used to gather specific information - it can normally be answered with either a single word or a short phrase. Good counseling techniques to know!

Paraphrasing is when you restate what the speaker said. Often different works are used and the listener may be using this to draw attention to a particular concern or aspect. Sometimes paraphrasing is used to clarify.

Summarizing is focusing on the main points of a presentation or conversation in order to highlight them. At the same time you are giving the “gist”, you are checking to see if you are accurate.

Notetaking is the practice of writing down pieces of information, often in an shorthand and messy manner. The listener needs to be discreet and not disturb the flow of thought, speech or body language of the speaker.

Homework - When the person identifies a need or concern, she or he must be willing to work hard at addressing it. This is much like what you are doing right now. You want to learn counseling techniques, so you are going to study and practice these basic skills!

Hey there, hope you all are doing well.

It's been quite a long time since I last update this blog.

I'm totally regret that I didn't make this blog consistently updated.

My earnest apology for upsetting you all and I admit I've not done my duties well as a previous Ketua ICT. I hope the present Ketua ICT will not follow my mistakes.

To ALL~

Please be informed that this PRS blog wouldn't be updated for some time due to the mid-year examinations which is around the corner.
Thanks for those who always contribute splendid ideas to me, and for this PRS blog.
I will try to keep up with the latest educational news and post it up on this PRS blog.
Last of all,
CONGRATULATIONS to all of the PRS candidates who were just enrolled in Lembaga PRS, you all are EXCELLENT!

And for all of us who will be sitting for our tests very soon,

LET'S STUDY HARD!

Minggu PRS 2009

Tarikh : 27/4/09 (Isnin) - 30/4/09 (Khamis)
Sasaran : Pelajar-pelajar tingkatan Peralihan, 1, 2, 3, 4, dan 5.
Tempat : Bilik Tayangan dan Dewan PIBG SMK Seri Kembangan.
Objektif :
a) Mengadakan Majlis Perlantikan ahli PRS baru.
b) Mengeratkan hubungan dan memupuk semangat kerjasama ahli PRS.
C) Meningkatkan daya kepimpinan PRS dan pelajar-pelajar melalui ceramah.
d) Meningkatkan pengetahuan pelajar sekolah SMKSK tentang perkhidmatan
Unit Bimbingan dan Kaunseling melalui pameran.

PROGRAM TENTATIF
27/4 (Isnin) - Perasmian dan Perlantikan PRS baru
28/4 (Selasa) - Kuiz dan pameran Unit Bimbingan dan Kaunseling
29/4 (Rabu) - Kuiz dan bengkel kemahiran kaunseling
30/4 (Khamis) - Kuiz dan pameran Unit Bimbingan dan Kaunseling

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Why Is It Important To Develop Your Spiritual Self?

Our spiritual self is like the garden in our backyard with acres of diamond.

There are unlimited riches to be discovered within us, if we are aligned with our spiritual self.

More and more people embarked on a journey of spiritual awareness, to develop the three powerful spiritual skills: A sense of wholeness and community, humility, and love.

Sense of Wholeness and Community
Our sense of wholeness and community empowers us with the recognition that we are part of something greater than ourselves –a relationship, a family, and a community. Our ability to act for a greater good of others enriches our spiritual self and frees our mind from self-centeredness.
It is commonly observed that breakdown of cooperation occurs quickly in organizations where superiors are “only out for themselves”, and corporate policies don’t respect individual needs and concerns. Such environment only fosters disloyalty, apathy, and self-serving behaviors.

Humility
With humility, we realize that we are a small but integral part of something greater than our own small self. That is the key value that builds the belonging of people.
Humility seems to run contrary to a world where everyone is trained and encouraged to be the best. The word "humility" conjures the impression of weakness, meekness, lack of drive, and easily taken advantage of. It is hard to associate humility with personal power.
Humility is one of the most powerful qualities that arise from inner strength and health. We experience humility through a deep sense of awe when we participate in the birth of a child, gaze at the stars, experience the power of thunderstorm, or experience the awe and beauty of nature. These experiences strike a chord deeply with our spiritual self.

Love
Love is shown in selfless giving, be it money, time, care, concerns, and attention. The more you love, the less fearful you become. The more you give, the more abundance you gain. Love and selfless giving release us from the limitation of our ego.
It is interesting to know how the nature of pain is related to love. Whenever we experience pain, whether physical or psychological, we experience a boundary or limit. Many people who suffer chronic pain, which medication or surgery can no longer help, learn to eliminate pain by visualizing and eliminating the boundary lines around the pain. Once the boundary is removed, the pain no longer exists. This is usually done by relaxation, concentration and imagery.
If we take this to a broader scale, our life suffers pain whenever there are limitations and boundary that we could not overcome, be it physically, emotionally or psychologically. These limitations are mostly created by our ego. And love is the powerful force that could break and dissolve all the limitations.

The more we are aligned with our spiritual self, the more we are able to work on our ego to break these limitations, which is the essence of inner healing. This is the path to boundless and abundant living. This is what success is all about.

Informations from :
http://www.mind-power-for-success.com/spiritual-self.html

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How to deal with stress.

Stress symptoms include mental, social, and physical manifestations. These include exhaustion, loss of/increased appetite, headaches, crying, sleeplessness, and oversleeping. Escape through alcohol, drugs, or other compulsive behavior are often indications. Feelings of alarm, frustration, or apathy may accompany stress.

If you feel that stress is affecting your studies,a first option is to seek help through your educational counseling center.

What you can do to manage your stress?

Look around
See if there really is something you can change or control in the situation.

Set realistic goals for yourself
Reduce the number of events going on in your life and you may reduce the circuit overload.

Remove yourself from the stressful situation
Give yourself a break if only for a few moments daily.

Don't overwhelm yourselfby fretting about your entire workload.
Handle each task as it comes, or selectively deal with matters in some priority.

Don't sweat the small stuff
Try to prioritize a few truly important things and let the rest slide.

Learn how to best relax yourself
Meditation and breathing exercises have been proven to be very effective in controlling stress. Practice clearing your mind of disturbing thoughts.Selectively change the way you react,but not too much at one time. Focus on one troublesome thing and manage your reactions to it/him/her

Change the way you see your situation, seek alternative viewpoints
Stress is a reaction to events and problems, and you can lock yourself in to one way of viewing your situation. Seek an outside perspective of the situation, compare it with yours. and perhaps lessen your reaction to these conditions.

Avoid extreme reactions
Why hate when a little dislike will do? Why generate anxiety when you can be nervous? Why rage when anger will do the job? Why be depressed when you can just be sad?

Do something for others
to help get your mind off your self.

Get enough sleep
Lack of rest just aggravates stress.

Work off stress
with physical activity, whether it's jogging, tennis, gardening.

Avoid self-medication or escape
Alcohol and drugs can mask stress. They don't help deal with the problems.

Begin to manage the effects of stress
This is a long range strategy of adapting to your situation, and the effects of stress in your life. Try to isolate and work with one "effect" at a time. Don't overwhelm yourself. for example, if you are not sleeping well, seek help on this one problem.

Try to be positive
Give yourself messages as to how well you can cope rather than how horrible everything is going to be.

"Stress can actually help memory, provided it is short-term and not too severe. Stress causes more glucose to be delivered to the brain, which makes more energy available to neurons. This, in turn, enhances memory formation and retrieval. On the other hand, if stress is prolonged, it can impede the glucose delivery and disrupt memory."

Most importantly,
if stress is putting you in an unmanageable state or interfering with your schoolwork, social and/or work life, seek professional help at your school counseling center.

Which course is right for you ?

Whether you've just finished your SPM/STPM/A levels or even if you're still studying, it's never too early to start thinking about a course of study at university or a career you would like to get into. If you don't know where to start, let the questions and guides below help you.

1) What kind of subjects do you like in school?Which class do you look forward to attending everyday or every week?

Guide :
a)If you like technical subjects like mathematics and science, you can consider science-based or research-based courses.
b)If you like languages, you can consider communication, law or language-based courses.
c)If you like subjects that involve calculations, you can consider courses that deal with numbers like accountancy, economics or actuarial science.
d)If you like art, you can consider creative courses like fine art, graphic design, web design or multimedia.

2)Which subjects do you usually score high marks in?

Guide :
a)While it's important to have interest in a subject, it's equally important to be able to do well in it. Therefore, you need to know if your interests match you abilities. For example, engineering might not suit you if you keep failing physics, or if you like art but you can't draw.

3)What kind of career or work industry in which you would like to see yourself? Can you identify with any career? Do you like a particular work industry?

Guide :
a)As some courses of study are more closely linked to a career than others, you could actually narrow your choices of a course of study though identifying the career or work industry you want to be in. Think whether you'd like to work with one or combination of the following in future :
1)People - careers in this category include sales, marketing, consultancy, communications, education, medicine, entertainment, hospitality, tourism etc.
2)Information - careers in this category include accountancy, IT, finance, banking, insurance, science and technology, research, consultancy etc.
3)Words - careers in this category include law, printing and publishing, journalism, writing, translations, interpretation, information management.
4)Objects - careers in this category include engineering, archeology, architecture, built environment, art, research, science etc.

As entry requirements for courses vary from university to university, you need to ensure that you meet the entry requirements in order to get into the courses of your choice. Generally, students in the science stream can choose to go into both arts-based and science-based courses whereas arts students can go into arts-based courses only because more technical courses like engineering requires students to have prior knowledge in physics and mathematics.
However, courses like IT accepts students from both streams. Besides, places for certain courses like medicine are limited so you need very good grades to secure a place. Apart from that, you also need good grades to secure places in overseas universities that are ranked highly.

I hope that the above questions and answers have set you thinking about a course and career.

Need further information?

You can refer to our councelors at school or you can also get useful educational information from UBK. You can also visit http://www.doctorjob.com.my/ for more information.

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PRS is a counceling unit. We are to help those who needs help in school.
Counceling is the process by which a counselor helps a person cope with mental or emotional distress, understand and solve personal problems.
A school counselor is a councelor and educator who provides academic, career, college readiness, and personal/social competencies to all students.